As I was driving home the other day after running some errands (one of which was to pay a bill that would otherwise be late) I was thinking…. Why do I do that? Why would I wait until the last minute to pay a bill that I could easily have popped into the mail a couple of weeks earlier? The silliness of it struck me. And then, a memory jumped to mind. Many, many years earlier, in elementary school, we were learning about Native American Indians. There was a tribe, the Navajo I think, that were famous for their exquisite weaving. But, they would always make a mistake in the weaving; if not by accident, then on purpose, because to be perfect was considered arrogance, or impertinence, towards the gods. It must have stuck with me in some corner of my mind for all of these years. Is this why I do silly little things that make my own life more difficult; because I don’t want to “be too perfect”? Because if I were it would tempt disaster?

I see this tendency in myself and others all the time. Life can be going along smoothly and fabulously then suddenly, like the emergency break just got yanked, there is a senseless act of self sabotage that interrupts the wonderful fluid forward flow. There is a term I have heard used for this phenomenon. It is “de-evolution”.

Why does this happen? Is it because it takes so much energy to keep “it” all together; like holding multiple beach balls below the surface of a pool? Is it because we somehow fear being perfect? Or maybe because we want to be seen and recognized and loved for who we are as people rather than for what we look like or the job we do. Most likely it is some combination of these, and other reasons. We are all so unique, so different….and I will hazard a guess that the “cure” for this phenomenon is as unique as the experience.

For me, maybe the cure is to slow down, smell the flowers, enjoy the sunshine, and to get more joy out of the little things in life, including paying pills. As for any lingering fears of perfection (ha ha), now that I am aware of that idea, I can use NLP to rewrite that, up ’til now subconscious, internal dialogue.

Focus and Succeed

in Health and Happiness

Do you feel busy and overwhelmed? You are not alone!

There is more to do, more places to go, and more distractions than ever before. We expect more from ourselves too. We want to excel professionally, and personally; in health, home, and relationships. We want to be our authentic, creative, can-do-it-all best-self, and make it look easy. The more there is to do the more difficult it becomes, like a big juggling act, with too many balls in the air to give any one adequate attention. Often the basics of life are neglected in favor of the details. It can be difficult to regroup without dropping them all, but here’s what I do:

I think about this instead:

“You have stated your goals and you are actively pursuing them. You have support and resources focused on getting you there. YOU are your own best resource. The time and energy you put towards the achievement of your desires will pay dividends in the short term, and for the rest of your life. Your children and your children’s children will benefit from each and every thing you do RIGHT NOW. Your health and well-being directly influences the people around you. The foundations you are building, in education, business, finance, health, and family will last generations. You ARE building your legacy, every day, in every way, whether you know it or not.”

I look at the quality of my eating habits, self-care habits, work habits, exercise habits, and relationships. I make conscious choices about how I spend my time.

I allow each and every thing I do to represent the enormity of the effect it will have on my overall life, now, and for generations to come.

Drinking adequate amounts of clean water, taking walks, telling someone I love them, eating nutritious foods, breathing, and keeping a tidy work space – not small things just simple things.

When I stop to think about this, it is so obvious. I do occasionally have to remind myself to slow down and take my own advice; usually, because I have gotten too busy and not getting enough enjoyment out of basic life-sustaining things. When I do, life goes back into balance and I get way more JOY out of EVERYTHING!!

So slow down and REALLY think about what YOU are CREATING with every action, or lack of action, each and every day. The only time to act is now. The only time you can affect any outcome is RIGHT NOW.